Sexy seniors, however, know different. A lot. You look at each other with new eyes, feel with new, um, hands. Sex in your forties is about rediscovering your sensual side, being an unselfish lover and revelling in mutual gratification. Do it like you mean it. It really helped us rediscover something and carried on beyond.

You might not mind the side effects that come along with aging. A lot of men worry about the effects of aging, and can start feeling so anxious they actually cause more problems for themselves. Medical issues can play a bigger role in your sex life as you get older. You may also want to get your hormone levels checked if you start noticing any changes to your sex drive or energy levels. Medications for blood pressure, diabetes, even allergies can lead to erectile and orgasm problems.

Katie Smith. I had more energy and felt lighter and happier, but something else was brewing. My libido was suddenly awake again.